Is there a recipe for living that works? What are the ingredients? This is a common question for many who seem to going through life aimlessly searching for something. Most often not even sure of what they are searching for. If you look in any cook book for a recipe, there will be some basic ingredients listed. How each person stirs, whips, beats, or mixes will vary but the ingredients remain the same. It is the same with a recipe for living. The ingredients are the same for every person; however, how we mix them up so to speak in our own lives will vary in different degrees. And as with any cooking recipe, each chef will add in a dash of this spice and a sprinkling of this herb to create their own unique dish.
It is the same for each person. Each person will use the same basic ingredients to have a happy, joyous and serene life but the flavors and spices each one adds will create the unique person each one of us are. What are the basic ingredients?
Mental attitude - You can add a cup of positive or a cup of negative attitude. It seems to work best when the attitude of gratitude is added into the mixture. With an attitude of gratitude a person will most definitely have a positive and optimistic outlook up on life.
Integrity - Don’t compare yourself to others. You have to live up to your own person values. When you compare yourself to others you perceive yourself as being worthless. With everything that you do, do it with honor and dignity.
Hope - What is your inspiration? Your passion? Your dream? Many times when a person has lost their passion in life they loose their hope. Without hope to inspire us through the rough times, life will become harder and harder to go through. Conversely, when we have hope, we also have faith that our dreams will come true.
Honesty - Be honest with yourself. It is normal to question your own thoughts and actions, but it is also easy to transpire that into rationalization and justification for our own actions. The old saying rings true “To Thine Own self Be True”.
Humility - Asking for help can be one of the most difficult tasks that a person has to do. Each of us wants to think that we can handle our lives without outside influence. This just isn’t so. Whether it is the humility of asking a Divine power for guidance and strength or asking a partner for assistance, humility is a true act of strength.
Responsibility - Do not change your moral value’s to please anyone. It is your responsibility to hold yourself up to your own code of morals. At times you may desire to adjust those codes due to an experience or change in perception, but take responsibility for your own actions by holding them up to your own code of ethics. Do not compromise them as you will regret it later.
Perseverance - There are many times that commitment to being who you are and what you stand for will take great vigilance and perseverance. There will always be times when a situation will seem to test your strength but if in the end you continue to put one foot in front of the other following the path you have set as your own, the rewards will come when you reach a destination that you have been striving for.
Love - The best for last. Find love in your life. Whether it is love of another person or love of nature. Just find love of life starting with Love of Yourself.
Monday, April 19, 2010
Why Doesn't God Love Me?
Based on true story.
Why Doesn’t God Love Me?
“Heather, where is your mommy? Put her on the phone,” I panicked from the absence of sound, each lingering moment, begging, praying for an answer. Only unfathomable noises from the tiny voice on the other end whimpered back. Pleading into the cold emptiness of stillness I said, “Please, Heather answer me? What is wrong? What is happening?”
A painful eternity seemed to pass while I waited for some sound, desperate to hear a breath, a scream, any sound indicating life. While thoughts scattering like broken shards of prism cut deep into my flesh, hair stood straight upon my neck. Dropping the phone, leaving the cord dangling to the floor, I sped full speed to the front door, sprinting two blocks, stumbling and puffing up the stairs, trying to avoid the scattered toys strewn across the steps. I burst through the unlocked door, willing a noise to break the quiet that beckoned out.
“Heather! Kathy!” Tension cloaked everything in a clammy, ghastly cold, releasing shivers up my spine. A lightheaded nausea overwhelmed me as the unmistakable aromas flooded in of leftover tequila and stale smoke. Dreading what abhorrent sight that I might see, and then inhaling with great trepidation, I swung the doors open.
Froze solid, wanting to scream, but nothing escaped; wanting to run, but unable to move, unable to swallow, my throat now as parched as a hot day in the Sahara. I was riveted to the horrific scene on the floor, playing out a nightmare worse than any scene I imagined.
“Mommy is so cold. I tried to cover her with my blankie. She will not wake up. Make her wake up,” the blue-eyed blonde girl pitifully whimpered gazing at me with swollen, tear-filled eyes.
I managed to utter, “Heather, sweetie, come here,” desperately wanting to pull her from the horrific reality. My fingertips brushed the cooling flesh and the touch seared my soul. I whipped my hand back from it like it was a hot flame. Swirling questions and confusion clogged my thoughts. I thought blood was red. Why was it so black? Her hair was matted. She would not want anyone to see her in that dress. God, what have you done? Heather. Oh God…
Clutching desperately to the blonde haired girl, begins rocking slowly unsure of how to console her or me at this moment, thoughts racing erratically. Heather broke the thoughts asking, “Why doesn’t God love me?” Who knew what to answer?
“Why don’t you think God loves you sweetie?” forming words back to her.
“If God loved me, he wouldn’t let Mommy get so cold. Or not wake up. Or not answer me,” she said in a voice trembling with doubt and fear.
Every whimper, every sob enraged the fires in my soul further. I willed the woman to be alive again, if only to vent my fiery rage at her. “Look what you have done -- done to Heather. Look! Damn it, why did you take the easy way out! How does one answer a question like that? Tell me? Tell me!”
Instead, I said, “God loves you Heather. He really does. I promise. So do I baby girl. So do I. It will be okay. It will. I promise.”
I wanted with ever fiber of my being to shake the woman on the floor, make her breath again; make her alive, even if so that the shrills of questions inside could be voiced. How do I explain you chose to grow cold? That you did not think life was worth living anymore. How could you do this to Heather? How could you do this to me? How? Torrents of salty tears cascaded across my tired features, I began a rhythmic rocking, trying to console us both but pandemonium burst through the stillness.
“No!” the shrill of her tiny voice starling. “Mommy is cold. Don’t take the blanket off her! Stop!” Unable to hold her back, a slow motion, and silent film played out: A small blonde-haired girl begins fluttering about, carefully tucking in a pale blue blanket with a small yellow bunny in one corner. A close-up shows the features of the woman lying so very still on the floor. Zooming in on the blanket, the bunny reveals smears of viscous vile blackness upon it, a stark contrast of innocence versus the reality of life showing in a still frame. Each silent murmur the young girl utters reverberates inside my soul and echoes about the hollow absence left in its wake.
“Mom you’re doing it again,” the beautiful blue-eyed blonde standing with hands on her hips waited for me to shake clear memories.
“What did you say, honey?” still lost in thoughts of the day ten years ago when this young woman before me came to be my own daughter.
“Can I go, Mom?” The impatient teenager standing before me asked again.
“Go where, Heather?” I say looking at the teenager, praying that she does know today that God does love her and that I have shown her that love.
Why Doesn’t God Love Me?
“Heather, where is your mommy? Put her on the phone,” I panicked from the absence of sound, each lingering moment, begging, praying for an answer. Only unfathomable noises from the tiny voice on the other end whimpered back. Pleading into the cold emptiness of stillness I said, “Please, Heather answer me? What is wrong? What is happening?”
A painful eternity seemed to pass while I waited for some sound, desperate to hear a breath, a scream, any sound indicating life. While thoughts scattering like broken shards of prism cut deep into my flesh, hair stood straight upon my neck. Dropping the phone, leaving the cord dangling to the floor, I sped full speed to the front door, sprinting two blocks, stumbling and puffing up the stairs, trying to avoid the scattered toys strewn across the steps. I burst through the unlocked door, willing a noise to break the quiet that beckoned out.
“Heather! Kathy!” Tension cloaked everything in a clammy, ghastly cold, releasing shivers up my spine. A lightheaded nausea overwhelmed me as the unmistakable aromas flooded in of leftover tequila and stale smoke. Dreading what abhorrent sight that I might see, and then inhaling with great trepidation, I swung the doors open.
Froze solid, wanting to scream, but nothing escaped; wanting to run, but unable to move, unable to swallow, my throat now as parched as a hot day in the Sahara. I was riveted to the horrific scene on the floor, playing out a nightmare worse than any scene I imagined.
“Mommy is so cold. I tried to cover her with my blankie. She will not wake up. Make her wake up,” the blue-eyed blonde girl pitifully whimpered gazing at me with swollen, tear-filled eyes.
I managed to utter, “Heather, sweetie, come here,” desperately wanting to pull her from the horrific reality. My fingertips brushed the cooling flesh and the touch seared my soul. I whipped my hand back from it like it was a hot flame. Swirling questions and confusion clogged my thoughts. I thought blood was red. Why was it so black? Her hair was matted. She would not want anyone to see her in that dress. God, what have you done? Heather. Oh God…
Clutching desperately to the blonde haired girl, begins rocking slowly unsure of how to console her or me at this moment, thoughts racing erratically. Heather broke the thoughts asking, “Why doesn’t God love me?” Who knew what to answer?
“Why don’t you think God loves you sweetie?” forming words back to her.
“If God loved me, he wouldn’t let Mommy get so cold. Or not wake up. Or not answer me,” she said in a voice trembling with doubt and fear.
Every whimper, every sob enraged the fires in my soul further. I willed the woman to be alive again, if only to vent my fiery rage at her. “Look what you have done -- done to Heather. Look! Damn it, why did you take the easy way out! How does one answer a question like that? Tell me? Tell me!”
Instead, I said, “God loves you Heather. He really does. I promise. So do I baby girl. So do I. It will be okay. It will. I promise.”
I wanted with ever fiber of my being to shake the woman on the floor, make her breath again; make her alive, even if so that the shrills of questions inside could be voiced. How do I explain you chose to grow cold? That you did not think life was worth living anymore. How could you do this to Heather? How could you do this to me? How? Torrents of salty tears cascaded across my tired features, I began a rhythmic rocking, trying to console us both but pandemonium burst through the stillness.
“No!” the shrill of her tiny voice starling. “Mommy is cold. Don’t take the blanket off her! Stop!” Unable to hold her back, a slow motion, and silent film played out: A small blonde-haired girl begins fluttering about, carefully tucking in a pale blue blanket with a small yellow bunny in one corner. A close-up shows the features of the woman lying so very still on the floor. Zooming in on the blanket, the bunny reveals smears of viscous vile blackness upon it, a stark contrast of innocence versus the reality of life showing in a still frame. Each silent murmur the young girl utters reverberates inside my soul and echoes about the hollow absence left in its wake.
“Mom you’re doing it again,” the beautiful blue-eyed blonde standing with hands on her hips waited for me to shake clear memories.
“What did you say, honey?” still lost in thoughts of the day ten years ago when this young woman before me came to be my own daughter.
“Can I go, Mom?” The impatient teenager standing before me asked again.
“Go where, Heather?” I say looking at the teenager, praying that she does know today that God does love her and that I have shown her that love.
Chronic Pain Management and Nutritional Therapy
Chronic pain can be devastating physically as slowly it strips all inner and outer strength from a person. If that were not bad enough, the emotional and mental torture isolates a person and rips hope from their very soul. Recuperating from chronic pain can really be possible. Don't loose hope.
The body's own power to heal itself is miraculous. What is healing really? The perception of how pain feels is part that needs to change to heal. However, regardless of what mechanism a person uses to change their perception it is not an overnight matter. The human brain is the place that starts chronic pain; therefore, the human brain can also stop it.
The first thing that must be understood is that pain and suffering are two vastly different things. Pain is a physical sensation; whereas, suffering is a reaction to the pain. Eliminating the suffering will by definition enable a person to lessen the effects of the the physical affects. When a person has chronic disabling pain, eliminating the concurrent suffering (the mental aspects) can actually diminish the results of it.
The first myth that must be dispelled is that it is all in your mind. The reality is that chronic pain is in the brain not in the mind. They are two different parts of the human.
To eliminate the suffering (the mind part) there are many different options that are available to assist a person.
1. Nutritional therapy
2. Physical/occupational therapy
3. Mental and spiritual pain control
4. Last resort medication
Let's talk about the nutritional therapy. Some nutrients actually relieve inflammation. Inflammation is one of the most common causes of pain. There are nutrients that build serotonin which helps block the pain. Some nutrients help the health of your brain and nerves. Conversely, there are some pitfalls that nutritionally people fall into that can actually cause pain.
EPA is a nutrient that is found in fish. It actually comes from a type of seaweed and algae. When fish eat the seaweed and algae and the fish is consumed by people, it is metabolized. The best sources are salmon, tuna and sardines. If at all possible, a person suffering from chronic pain should consume 2-5 servings of these fish each week.
ALA is a fatty acid found in green vegetables. Especially high content are wheat grass and alfalfa. These greens have a strong anti inflammatory effect.
The typical wrong fat is animal fat and common cooking oils. These types of fat create an acid which for people who have this is like taking poison. When you reduce your fat intake not only will you decrease the inflammation but you liver function will improve and you will have better blood circulation. Both of these benefits will reduce the long term degenerative part of chronic pain.
Some other nutrients that are beneficial in decreasing inflammation are:
1. Turmeric - This common spice may actually be the single most powerful natural anti inflammatory known. It has been used for centuries in Eastern countries.
2. Boswellin - Another ancient remedy. Here in the US we make frankincense out of it. It can be found in any health food store.
3. Ginger - Asians have used ginger as an anti inflammatory cure for thousands of years. It is thought that the dried version is more powerful than the fresh ginger.
4. Antioxidants - Antioxidant vitamins are seen everywhere in the market place as something everyone should include in their everyday life. This is even more important if you have chronic pain. There is scientific evidence that Vitamins C, A, E, and Selenium are powerful anti inflammatory nutrients that are a must in any nutritional therapy.
The most important of all the nutrients that a sufferer must have in their daily diet is Serotonin. Serotonin actually raises your pain threshold level. Serotonin actually reduces the amount of "Substance P" in a person's system which carries pain. Serotonin blocks "Substance P" in your spinal cord. Logically, if the pain carrying substance P never reaches your brain, you don't feel pain. Remember, pain is in your brain not in your mind.
Serotonin works within the brain as well . The thalamus is the pain receiver in your brain. The higher the level of Serotonin in the thalamus, the lower the perception of pain you feel. It is a way to counterattack your pain.
Serotonin also is scientifically proven to elevate your mood. With chronic pain, depression and fear are something every person battles. Elevating your mood will help alleviate the depression and fear allowing you to fight the pain perception with your brain rather than focusing on depression and fear.
Further, your brain be weakened by the constant battle with the pain flooding it, so sleep becomes increasingly more and more difficult. Increasing your Serotonin will actually help regulate a person's sleep cycle. The more sleep and rest your brain obtains, the more power it has to battle the pain signals. Lastly, Serotonin can help with blood vessel flexibility causing less irritation and thus pain in a chronic pain sufferer.
A persons brain does more than just think, it governs directly and indirectly every process in your body. Starting with nutritional therapy to help your brain fight back is the first step in taking back control of your life. When you combine nutritional therapy with the other three pain fighting therapies, remarkable success can be had in taking and keeping control of your life once more.
The body's own power to heal itself is miraculous. What is healing really? The perception of how pain feels is part that needs to change to heal. However, regardless of what mechanism a person uses to change their perception it is not an overnight matter. The human brain is the place that starts chronic pain; therefore, the human brain can also stop it.
The first thing that must be understood is that pain and suffering are two vastly different things. Pain is a physical sensation; whereas, suffering is a reaction to the pain. Eliminating the suffering will by definition enable a person to lessen the effects of the the physical affects. When a person has chronic disabling pain, eliminating the concurrent suffering (the mental aspects) can actually diminish the results of it.
The first myth that must be dispelled is that it is all in your mind. The reality is that chronic pain is in the brain not in the mind. They are two different parts of the human.
To eliminate the suffering (the mind part) there are many different options that are available to assist a person.
1. Nutritional therapy
2. Physical/occupational therapy
3. Mental and spiritual pain control
4. Last resort medication
Let's talk about the nutritional therapy. Some nutrients actually relieve inflammation. Inflammation is one of the most common causes of pain. There are nutrients that build serotonin which helps block the pain. Some nutrients help the health of your brain and nerves. Conversely, there are some pitfalls that nutritionally people fall into that can actually cause pain.
EPA is a nutrient that is found in fish. It actually comes from a type of seaweed and algae. When fish eat the seaweed and algae and the fish is consumed by people, it is metabolized. The best sources are salmon, tuna and sardines. If at all possible, a person suffering from chronic pain should consume 2-5 servings of these fish each week.
ALA is a fatty acid found in green vegetables. Especially high content are wheat grass and alfalfa. These greens have a strong anti inflammatory effect.
The typical wrong fat is animal fat and common cooking oils. These types of fat create an acid which for people who have this is like taking poison. When you reduce your fat intake not only will you decrease the inflammation but you liver function will improve and you will have better blood circulation. Both of these benefits will reduce the long term degenerative part of chronic pain.
Some other nutrients that are beneficial in decreasing inflammation are:
1. Turmeric - This common spice may actually be the single most powerful natural anti inflammatory known. It has been used for centuries in Eastern countries.
2. Boswellin - Another ancient remedy. Here in the US we make frankincense out of it. It can be found in any health food store.
3. Ginger - Asians have used ginger as an anti inflammatory cure for thousands of years. It is thought that the dried version is more powerful than the fresh ginger.
4. Antioxidants - Antioxidant vitamins are seen everywhere in the market place as something everyone should include in their everyday life. This is even more important if you have chronic pain. There is scientific evidence that Vitamins C, A, E, and Selenium are powerful anti inflammatory nutrients that are a must in any nutritional therapy.
The most important of all the nutrients that a sufferer must have in their daily diet is Serotonin. Serotonin actually raises your pain threshold level. Serotonin actually reduces the amount of "Substance P" in a person's system which carries pain. Serotonin blocks "Substance P" in your spinal cord. Logically, if the pain carrying substance P never reaches your brain, you don't feel pain. Remember, pain is in your brain not in your mind.
Serotonin works within the brain as well . The thalamus is the pain receiver in your brain. The higher the level of Serotonin in the thalamus, the lower the perception of pain you feel. It is a way to counterattack your pain.
Serotonin also is scientifically proven to elevate your mood. With chronic pain, depression and fear are something every person battles. Elevating your mood will help alleviate the depression and fear allowing you to fight the pain perception with your brain rather than focusing on depression and fear.
Further, your brain be weakened by the constant battle with the pain flooding it, so sleep becomes increasingly more and more difficult. Increasing your Serotonin will actually help regulate a person's sleep cycle. The more sleep and rest your brain obtains, the more power it has to battle the pain signals. Lastly, Serotonin can help with blood vessel flexibility causing less irritation and thus pain in a chronic pain sufferer.
A persons brain does more than just think, it governs directly and indirectly every process in your body. Starting with nutritional therapy to help your brain fight back is the first step in taking back control of your life. When you combine nutritional therapy with the other three pain fighting therapies, remarkable success can be had in taking and keeping control of your life once more.
Vitamin C Overdose - Is it possible?
"Excess of anything is bad." This includes Vitamin C. This vitamin is recommended for a supplement in nearly every doctor's office, TV ad, and print ad. However, going beyond the Recommended Daily Allowance (RDA) can cause severe problems with a persons health. Most believe the body will only use what they need and eliminate the rest. This is not always the case. A Vitamin C overdoes hinders the metabolic activities throughout the entire body.
The RDA is broken down into two separate categories:
Women Men
Non Smoking Smoking Non Smoking Smoking
110 mg 75 mg 125 mg 90 mg
Anything over 200 mg is more than enough to maximize the levels of plasma and lymphocytes. There are times when a body does require additional amounts of Vitamin C. For example, if you are under any type of environmental stress such as a trauma, fever, or any kind of infection. Anything over 500 mg, even with any of the above mentioned environmental factors, will reach any person's maximum saturation rate. Vitamin C is a water - soluble protein and in normal conditions, anything in excess is excreted by the body. When it is not excreted it will cause diarrhea, gas, and stomach cramps at the very least. Other effects can be severe cramps, nausea, and risks for kidney stones.
Major overdoses reduce the bodies level of copper, an essential nutrient. If a person already has an iron abundance disorder, even small doses of Vitamin C can cause severe health risks as Vitamin C increases iron absorption into the system. In Pregnant women it can actually cause infants to develop rebound scurvy when born. Elder people also need to be very cautious with the amount of Vitamin C they take, as they are more prone to develop a toxicity level in the kidneys, resulting in very serious medical issues. The same results of interference with functioning of certain medications are true with patients who have diabetes or high blood pressure.
There is limited research linking Vitamin C overdoes over long periods of time that will lend a patient to be at a higher risk for cancer.
If you believe you may be taking an overdoes amount of Vitamin C, the first must is to contact your medical professional. Never stop taking anything "cold turkey" including Vitamin C, as it may bring on another whole set of issues in the body. The good news is that is is nearly impossible to overdose on Vitamin C from the foods that you eat. So before deciding to take Vitamin supplements, ask yourself and your doctor - Do I really need the extra Vitamin C supplement? Your medical profession will be able to assist you in making the correct decision with you.
The RDA is broken down into two separate categories:
Women Men
Non Smoking Smoking Non Smoking Smoking
110 mg 75 mg 125 mg 90 mg
Anything over 200 mg is more than enough to maximize the levels of plasma and lymphocytes. There are times when a body does require additional amounts of Vitamin C. For example, if you are under any type of environmental stress such as a trauma, fever, or any kind of infection. Anything over 500 mg, even with any of the above mentioned environmental factors, will reach any person's maximum saturation rate. Vitamin C is a water - soluble protein and in normal conditions, anything in excess is excreted by the body. When it is not excreted it will cause diarrhea, gas, and stomach cramps at the very least. Other effects can be severe cramps, nausea, and risks for kidney stones.
Major overdoses reduce the bodies level of copper, an essential nutrient. If a person already has an iron abundance disorder, even small doses of Vitamin C can cause severe health risks as Vitamin C increases iron absorption into the system. In Pregnant women it can actually cause infants to develop rebound scurvy when born. Elder people also need to be very cautious with the amount of Vitamin C they take, as they are more prone to develop a toxicity level in the kidneys, resulting in very serious medical issues. The same results of interference with functioning of certain medications are true with patients who have diabetes or high blood pressure.
There is limited research linking Vitamin C overdoes over long periods of time that will lend a patient to be at a higher risk for cancer.
If you believe you may be taking an overdoes amount of Vitamin C, the first must is to contact your medical professional. Never stop taking anything "cold turkey" including Vitamin C, as it may bring on another whole set of issues in the body. The good news is that is is nearly impossible to overdose on Vitamin C from the foods that you eat. So before deciding to take Vitamin supplements, ask yourself and your doctor - Do I really need the extra Vitamin C supplement? Your medical profession will be able to assist you in making the correct decision with you.
Achieving Inner Peace
Achieving peace of mind begins with finding an inner peace that can be achieved at all times, not only when a person actively participates in meditation to find it. True peace is something that is within always.
Some simple ways to achieve the inner peace you are looking for can come from other places, not only mediation.
Spiritual Exercise
Practice spiritual exercises and develop strength and understand of adversity.
Practice gratitude for everything in your life
Even for the adversity as it is a lesson for growth. External gratitude leads to inner peace.
Practice the positive affirmations about yourself
Look for the positive in everything and everyone around you. When practiced, a warm glow of inner peach will fill your insides.
Practice choosing peace
Choosing to stay calm in adversity and stressful times will subconsciously allow you to develop positive actions in the face of any challenge.
Learn to love yourself
Learn to practice self love through self compassion and self nurturing. This will lead to building a foundation of inner security allowing you to remain calm and serene.
Learn to forgive yourself
You are human and will make mistakes. Practice not judging yourself and release your resentments you hold against yourself for making a mistake.
Forgive others
Learn to forgive others when you are holding onto judgments resulting in grudges and resentments. This will only lead to disharmony within you. To get inner peace, you must learn to forgive and forget.
Practice Honesty
The most difficult aspect of honesty is to be honest with you. If you can't be honest with yourself, then it is impossible to be honest with others. When you can be true to yourself, this is one of the greatest gifts you can give yours towards obtaining true inner peace.
You are more than your physical body
Your core is your divine essence or your spirit. It deserves peace, true inner peace.
Practice Positive
Practice thinking positively. Look for the good in every situation and every person. Practice positive actions that result in receiving positive feed back.
Practice being Neutral
In every situation practice looking at it from an outside observer taking neither side. This will open your awareness up giving you more choices in life.
A Journey
Remember life is a journey, it is not a destination. A journey that will allow you to learn and grow in self awareness if you allow it that will bring true inner peace.
Practice these simple suggestions on a daily basis to become full of greater inner peace and quiet serenity.
Some simple ways to achieve the inner peace you are looking for can come from other places, not only mediation.
Spiritual Exercise
Practice spiritual exercises and develop strength and understand of adversity.
Practice gratitude for everything in your life
Even for the adversity as it is a lesson for growth. External gratitude leads to inner peace.
Practice the positive affirmations about yourself
Look for the positive in everything and everyone around you. When practiced, a warm glow of inner peach will fill your insides.
Practice choosing peace
Choosing to stay calm in adversity and stressful times will subconsciously allow you to develop positive actions in the face of any challenge.
Learn to love yourself
Learn to practice self love through self compassion and self nurturing. This will lead to building a foundation of inner security allowing you to remain calm and serene.
Learn to forgive yourself
You are human and will make mistakes. Practice not judging yourself and release your resentments you hold against yourself for making a mistake.
Forgive others
Learn to forgive others when you are holding onto judgments resulting in grudges and resentments. This will only lead to disharmony within you. To get inner peace, you must learn to forgive and forget.
Practice Honesty
The most difficult aspect of honesty is to be honest with you. If you can't be honest with yourself, then it is impossible to be honest with others. When you can be true to yourself, this is one of the greatest gifts you can give yours towards obtaining true inner peace.
You are more than your physical body
Your core is your divine essence or your spirit. It deserves peace, true inner peace.
Practice Positive
Practice thinking positively. Look for the good in every situation and every person. Practice positive actions that result in receiving positive feed back.
Practice being Neutral
In every situation practice looking at it from an outside observer taking neither side. This will open your awareness up giving you more choices in life.
A Journey
Remember life is a journey, it is not a destination. A journey that will allow you to learn and grow in self awareness if you allow it that will bring true inner peace.
Practice these simple suggestions on a daily basis to become full of greater inner peace and quiet serenity.
Tools for the Mind
Are there times in your life when you feel over whelmed and out of control? Do you easily get depressed? Do you feel that you are in a deep hole with no way out? Obstacles in your life seem to difficult to even face? Rest assured that many people have reasons to find themselves in the same place and have taken back control of their lives.
Those around you that seem to be sailing through life without any worry or fear have learned the secret. Successful people face the same problems and obstacles in daily life as you do. The only difference is they know the secret of mind control.
If you feel as though you do not have the power to break free from the downward spiral your life is in, take a deep breath and read on. The only difference between you and those who seem to have calm seas is the realization that there own mind control can and will solve and overcome their obstacles. Many studies have been done that demonstrate how the perspective a person has on the world around them is simply the mind set of different obstacles. Your own thought process can control how you feel, how you see, and how you react to life.
Mental habits lead a person to live in a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break. The key to breaking the cycle is a change in mental state. There are some cases that require definite mental health therapy with trained professionals. For most, however, some of the following tools when applied can help break the cycle.
Tool 1 - FEAR
Fear means false expectations appearing real. What this really means is that you are in a cycle where your mind magnifies any problem you have three fold. When this happens, take a step back and look at yourself. Look at the honest reality of the situation. Is it really as monumental as it first appeared, or in small manageable steps, can it be overcome? What is the real difficulty in the situation? What is it that scares you about the expectation? Looking at situations or obstacles in this objective way breaks them down into more manageable pieces.
Tool 2 - Information
What sources are providing you mind with its thoughts? Changing the source to positive information and positive inspiration can change your thoughts. Literally flooding your mind daily with positive affirmations from an outside source will change your mind set. Changing your mind set leads the way to success.
Tool 3 - Perspective
Take another look at your situation from a different perspective. Look at it and find anything positive that you can see. Take an even broader perspective look and see what lessons you can learn from the experience. Seek out others who have positive outcomes that have faced the same situation and take inspiration and hope from knowing others have faced similar obstacles and walk through them. You are not alone. Once you realize perspective is a gift, success is well on its way.
Tool 4 - Beliefs and Values
Take another look at your personal beliefs and values. Are they contributing to the vicious cycle? Is there something that should be changed because it is no longer serving you well? Write them down in order to be able to look at them objectively Many successful people have over come obstacles because they took the time to write down and look at what their beliefs and values in life were and what they needed to become successful. Seeing what the holes are between what you currently believe and what you need to believe in order to find success allows you to have a list of goals to work on.
Tool 5 - Acceptance
Realizing what the true nature of your situation is removing any form of denial from your mind. This will allow you to work on adopting a new thought process to take over. Accepting yourself for who you are allows you the freedom to change who you are. You can not change something that you deny even exists. Acceptance is the key to all obstacles. Acceptance is the key to all change. Acceptance is the key to success.
Each of these tools worked on one at a time will gradually turn your mind set around allowing a person to reclaim their thought processes and change their life in an amazing way.
Those around you that seem to be sailing through life without any worry or fear have learned the secret. Successful people face the same problems and obstacles in daily life as you do. The only difference is they know the secret of mind control.
If you feel as though you do not have the power to break free from the downward spiral your life is in, take a deep breath and read on. The only difference between you and those who seem to have calm seas is the realization that there own mind control can and will solve and overcome their obstacles. Many studies have been done that demonstrate how the perspective a person has on the world around them is simply the mind set of different obstacles. Your own thought process can control how you feel, how you see, and how you react to life.
Mental habits lead a person to live in a vicious cycle that can be difficult to break. The key to breaking the cycle is a change in mental state. There are some cases that require definite mental health therapy with trained professionals. For most, however, some of the following tools when applied can help break the cycle.
Tool 1 - FEAR
Fear means false expectations appearing real. What this really means is that you are in a cycle where your mind magnifies any problem you have three fold. When this happens, take a step back and look at yourself. Look at the honest reality of the situation. Is it really as monumental as it first appeared, or in small manageable steps, can it be overcome? What is the real difficulty in the situation? What is it that scares you about the expectation? Looking at situations or obstacles in this objective way breaks them down into more manageable pieces.
Tool 2 - Information
What sources are providing you mind with its thoughts? Changing the source to positive information and positive inspiration can change your thoughts. Literally flooding your mind daily with positive affirmations from an outside source will change your mind set. Changing your mind set leads the way to success.
Tool 3 - Perspective
Take another look at your situation from a different perspective. Look at it and find anything positive that you can see. Take an even broader perspective look and see what lessons you can learn from the experience. Seek out others who have positive outcomes that have faced the same situation and take inspiration and hope from knowing others have faced similar obstacles and walk through them. You are not alone. Once you realize perspective is a gift, success is well on its way.
Tool 4 - Beliefs and Values
Take another look at your personal beliefs and values. Are they contributing to the vicious cycle? Is there something that should be changed because it is no longer serving you well? Write them down in order to be able to look at them objectively Many successful people have over come obstacles because they took the time to write down and look at what their beliefs and values in life were and what they needed to become successful. Seeing what the holes are between what you currently believe and what you need to believe in order to find success allows you to have a list of goals to work on.
Tool 5 - Acceptance
Realizing what the true nature of your situation is removing any form of denial from your mind. This will allow you to work on adopting a new thought process to take over. Accepting yourself for who you are allows you the freedom to change who you are. You can not change something that you deny even exists. Acceptance is the key to all obstacles. Acceptance is the key to all change. Acceptance is the key to success.
Each of these tools worked on one at a time will gradually turn your mind set around allowing a person to reclaim their thought processes and change their life in an amazing way.
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